Do you TAKE CARE of yourself?
Do you TELL yourself how amazing you are everyday?
Do you WALK AWAY from negativity when it comes your way?
Do you LISTEN to what is happening within you?
Do you FEED your mind and soul everyday?
I do. You should too.
It’s coming to 2 years since I learnt how important self care is. Before that I was in my world full of pretence and people pleasing. I thought I was being nice, I didn’t want to be seen as the “salty girl” everytime. It tapped me out but I only realised it later when I could count the number of friends I had on one hand but I actually talked to everyone. The times I felt alone increased and my emotions seemed ready to burst out every time. I argued whenever someone “came at me” with a different idea (my mum saw the most of this.) I was convinced it was a phase. The phase stayed, year in year out. I just learned to cope with it and It’s only when I changed my surroundings that I realised I wasn’t taking care of myself. That my self esteem was in shambles. I was full of negative energy with no way to let go of it.
Taking care of yourself, your mind, body and soul includes a lot of things. Not just eating right and doing exercise. That helps but there’s more to it. You read things that build you. I’m always looking for new things to learn. I love being a know-it-all though 😊
Interact healthily (that also means keeping yourself out of dumb arguments on social media) I almost got into one today with someone who doubted the existence of my tribe and mother tongue 🙄 (ignorance is bad people!) I have actually made it a point to stay away from the news too. It makes me anxious and infuriates me more each time I watch it. I don’t need that in my life.
Listen, not to only what is being said, but to actions, music and to yourself too. A lot more is said without words and it’s how I have managed to stay sane. Even silence speaks volumes. Maybe it’s why they say it’s deafening.
I have learnt that everything that happens around me isn’t about me. It’s how I have managed to take things less personal. If someone doesn’t answer my calls, I think it’s their problem not mine. I did the calling, what you do after is up to you. It’s a less stressful way to live life. I get to worry about the more important things.
Believing you’ve got the sauce. This began with self affirmation. Each day I faced at my lowest started with kind words to myself. Even when I couldn’t leave my bed I said them, wrote them down. I focused on what I had and managed to reduce the hatred I had raised for me in me. It’s been a while since then but I can comfortably say I love me as a whole, flaws and all.
Self care comes from within you. No one but yourself can give you the care and love you need. So don’t neglect yourself, it’s not an easy road to take.
To self love 🥂❤️😊